Sure, the wedding is the big event, but did you know that the bachelorette party could be just as enjoyable, too? In fact, sometimes it can be more fun because there is less stress, less worry, and less pressure to make everything perfect. Even the bride can let her hair down during this occasion. You can have a wonderful time in this intimate gathering of the people closest to her, enjoying the nice gifts and the wise advice that will be given to you.

What to say

Instead of sticking to cliches like “hey, I wish you all the best” or “best wishes on your wedding,” make your speech more personal and memorable by including some of these ideas in your speech.

Friendship / bond / closeness with the girlfriend

In a sentence or two, talk about how you met, how long you’ve known each other, and how deep your bond runs. (“I met Joyce in high school, we were partners in the science lab and have been best friends ever since).”

Thoughts and reactions when you heard that the bride was getting married

The first thing you thought or said when the news reached you can be something nice to share whether it’s something funny, sweet, or heartwarming. (“When Nikki called to tell me that she was getting married, I screamed so loudly that the neighbor thought there was a burglar in the house!” Or “When Tara saw the tears welling up in my eyes after breaking the news, she thought that I was excited, but actually I was sad that we won’t be having our fun late night parties anymore! “)

If the reaction is not memorable at all, just leave this out of your speech. (“I had no reaction when Sara said she was getting married”).

5 words you think will best describe a wife as a girlfriend

Don’t limit yourself to the usual adjectives like nice, beautiful, and wonderful. Be more creative. If you really know the bride, it won’t be too difficult to come up with imaginative adjectives that best describe her. Also, it would be better to avoid negative terms like “nagging” or “cheating”. Even if you think it’s true, you shouldn’t offend the bride, especially on this special occasion.

Advice for the bride about her marriage

Share something that you think would help the bride in her marriage. But be warned, you don’t want to end up giving a lecture hour and sounding like a smarty guy. Keep your piece short and sweet. The entire wedding speech should only last three to five minutes. Also, keep anything related to ex-boyfriends or past relationships out of the talk.

How to say it

A poem

If you are not good with speeches, you can always write or find a poem that says what you want to say to the girlfriend.

A song

If you can carry a good tune, you can choose a song that has a message that is appropriate for the occasion or you can compose your own song and write your own message for the bride.

A joke or a funny story

You can start with a joke or funny story to break the ice, liven up the scene, and make the bride laugh out loud.

One last thing to remember, the bridal shower speech is about the bride, not about you. Someday, you will have your turn (or maybe you already did) but from now on, this is the bride’s moment, so don’t do anything that makes her think you’re “stealing the thunder.”