In the summer of 1994 (can it be 18 already?), I used my first dating site. I forgot the name, although I do remember the phrase “personal photos” in the title, and it was this phrase and the possibilities it spoke of (actually seeing hundreds of potential men to date) that convinced me to sign up, very much. emotion. . I was single and ready to mingle. And the prospect of flipping through hundreds (hundreds, not thousands, that being a lot of dating profiles at the time) had me filled with nervous anticipation.

However, I had a problem. I’m sure you can guess what it was. How was I going to write a good dating profile? There were no examples of online dating profiles to attract men. Trust me, I checked and checked. So I managed and put together my first dating profile. It was something like this:

I’m 19 years old and I want a boyfriend

I have no idea what to write here, which is super weird because I’m actually a writer (well, I’m training to become one in college). Where was he anyway? Oh yeah. If you’re a nice, good-looking guy who isn’t an axe-killer (sorry, no exceptions), get in touch with us. If you’re an ax murderer, try killing pillows instead; they are less messy! If you want to know more (the nice guys they are), don’t be afraid to ask. Bye bye!

It’s not super terrible, is it? But not super good either!

Fast forward eighteen years to the present. Here we are together, you and me. In nearly two decades, I’ve become a writer, a dating coach, and I’ve written too many dating profiles to remember: some I wrote for myself to find a guy, others I wrote as examples. to help others do it, people just like you. And the latter is what I will do now.

In the following paragraphs I am going to summarize some very powerful insights that will help you attract men to dating sites. And you will do it all with words. Let us begin.

My headline here just sprouted hands and say hello!

A headline should capture attention. This is easier than you think. The vast majority of dating profile headlines say the following: “I’m looking for a man”; “I am alone.” Say it with me: Boring! If you were a guy, scanning hundreds of dating profiles, would any of those headlines stand out and grab you by the tags and demand you read the body of the profile? I did not think.

When you look at most examples of online dating profiles to attract men (and I assume you’ve read some of them), they rarely mention the headlines. What a fool! Arguably, headlines are more important than anything else. Because it is the headline, the one that draws attention, the one that gives us the opportunity to tell our story to someone.

Your headline should zing. Imagine thousands of other headlines, but one of those headlines is illuminated by a spotlight and when you look closer you hear a marching band and when you lean in closer still little arms are reaching out and waving in your direction. How could a guy resist looking at you?

Make your headline different. What is different? Different is a million things. Your unique brain and your life experience will dictate something to you. However, to help you out, let me give you some tricks.

How can we grab a man’s attention and force him to read our entire profile (so we can attract him)?

You can use humor. It is eye-catching and creates a good first impression.

Certain unusual words and phrases, which we did not expect to see, are just as powerful.

The question mark at the end of a catchy question is also a neat trick. People are forced to read questions and answer them; don’t you think?

And finally, ellipses are perhaps the smartest way to get a guy to read your profile (although, used alone, they’re not enough to grab his attention).

Here are some examples of citation headlines:

(humor) Help! My dog ​​asked me out. He looks tough. Good guys – Get in!

The example above is pretty cool, but be careful not to overuse the exclamation point.

(unusual words and humor) What a PICKLE am I at. I don’t have a date! I am also inside a pickle. Come rescue me!

(Question mark and ellipsis) Have you ever met someone as crazy as me? I took a picture and…

All about your body! No, not that body – Body in profile!

You know how to attract a man’s attention with your headline. Now we move on to the body of your profile; the part that attracts the man and convinces him to contact you.

This article would be unnecessarily long if I gave you dozens of examples of online dating profiles to attract men (and fill your inbox). I always figure it’s better to show a person HOW to fish than to give them fish. So let’s continue by giving you all the tips you’ll need to attract a man with your body in profile.

Your writing must be conversational (although grammatically correct, so that it can be understood). Let your voice shine through your words. After all, this is not a lecture on global warming!

Start your profile by writing about yourself; end it by writing about the type of man you want to meet.

Chorus of writing about the mundane and the cliché. We all like to have fun and laugh and many of us like long walks on the beach. But saying so is redundant. Instead, write about interesting things, perhaps very different, that define your uniqueness. Maybe you like to collect pink socks! Maybe you’ll make pancakes and your own applesauce! Dare to be different.

Humor is a powerful draw for men. A cheeky profile picture pales in comparison to a woman with a good sense of humor (after all, the world is literate with cheeky profile pictures—so much so, in fact, that they’ve become almost subliminal). Let your humor shine.

When you fill out the part of the profile about yourself, always make sure to ask the man to ask you more about yourself. This encourages that very important first contact of theirs.

Now, when it comes to writing about the man you want to meet, we have a slightly more difficult task (sorry!). We need to filter the unwanted men by the wanted men, but we don’t want to seem too picky in case we leave out those wanted men.

Before you start writing this last part, take a moment to ask yourself, in general terms, what kind of guy you want. Keywords are always the best, maybe written on a piece of paper. Maybe words like fun, resilient, mature, established, caring, adventurous describe your ideal man (hey, mine too!).

It is important to specify the characteristics that you want to see in the men who communicate with you, but to do it in a general way and not to write a lot. Therefore, be concise. This way, you end up getting the men you want and don’t discourage them.

Now let’s wrap up ladies with an example of a good dating profile that uses everything you’ve learned.

Oh God! My pet fish asked me out! But he’s too wet behind the ears. Old man, rescue me!

Are you here. Thank God. I have nothing against fish, you understand, but I think I’m going to prefer you. But enough about me. Let’s talk about you. What do you think about me?!

Oh yeah, I should tell you something first, right?

Well, I’m here because I’m single, I enjoy life, but I’m looking for a man to share all the fun that life decides to give me. Even the best things, like donuts and coffee, taste better with a nice guy who also enjoys them with you.

Speaking of donuts and coffee, yum, that’s my favorite breakfast. I also make a bad omelet. Well, it’s not bad-bad, you understand. She doesn’t jump off the plate and yell, “Hey, don’t eat me!” But hey, you understand me.

When I’m not making talking tortillas, I love to hit the markets on the weekends looking for a bargain. Last weekend I bought this lamp made from a cavalry helmet. During the day, I work as a writer, drink coffee and listen to Aerosmith and Bon Jovi in ​​my apartment. I have a potted plant named Cecil, a cat named D. Mille, and they watch movies together while I work—best friends. I spend my evenings inside, watching black and white movies or anything from Woody Allen, and dreaming of a man next to me, possibly you.

And who is this man, this man to steal my heart? Well, he’s mature, tough, funny, kind and considerate, with some kind of interesting job.

If you want to know more, just ask. I don’t bite, the same can’t be said for my bad tortillas!

And there you have it: a dating profile imbued with the knowledge you just gained.

Before I say goodbye to you and start putting your new knowledge into practice, let me suggest that you click here to create a dating profile and put what you’ve learned to the test. I recommend this site to all my clients (and readers) because they allow you to create profiles for free and are one of the largest dating communities in the world.

Have fun attracting your man and thanks for reading!