Most problems start with unrealistic expectations on both sides. This mostly happens to people who got married young or who don’t have much experience when it comes to relationships. When you have an unrealistic view of each other, it can lead to frustration, anger, and disappointments. Perhaps your problem in your marriage is due to the unrealistic expectations you have of your partner in your relationship.

hollywood-romance

Hollywood always makes these impossible notions about romance. This is what they sell after all. Wouldn’t it be just wonderful if all marriages were as perfect and wonderful as they are in the media? Perhaps you fall into the category of women who expect their husband to leave a trail of roses leading to the bedroom, where there are 100 candles and 5 dozen rose petals on the bed. Be honest, how realistic is this?

When you create this unrealistic expectation in your marriage, it will cause problems in your marriage. The truth is that reality is different. This doesn’t mean that the romance ends once you get married, but it won’t be as glamorous as you’d expect in the movies.

Put your partner on a pedestal

It can be devastating to wake up one morning and realize that the person you married is not as perfect as you thought they were. People who get married without actually knowing each other can expect to have problems in their marriage. Seeing your spouse for who she really is can be a little upsetting if she had high expectations before getting married.

What usually happens is that people only show their good side at the beginning of the relationship and then hide their flaws for a long time. To avoid problems like this, what you can do is take the relationship calmly and not put your partner on a pedestal. It is unrealistic and unfair to put your spouse on a pedestal, when they themselves are human too!

waiting for a fairy tale

Fairy tales are only great for children, but you have to recognize that they are nothing more than fantasies. Although Cinderella and Prince Charming were happily married in the castle at the end of the story, we don’t get to see what happens inside after a few years of being married together. For all we knew, Cinderella might have broken her glass slipper when she threw it at Prince Charming for coming home late and drunk.

A perfect marriage does not exist and the one who fights for only one will crash and burn along the way. The reality is that marriage requires a lot of work and love does not grow by itself. You have to take action every day to nurture your marriage and learn to grow together. You may not always get along with your spouse and may not agree on many things. However, it’s okay as long as you both acknowledge, respect, and appreciate each other’s differences. Once you accept this, your marriage will be as peaceful as the sea after a heavy storm.

Never lose hope when you have conflicts in your marriage. What you can do is change your expectations with your spouse. Yes, marriage is difficult. Marriage won’t be easy, but learning to grow with someone you commit to is what marriage is all about. If couples change their expectations and make them more in line with reality, there will be fewer problems in their marriage. If you don’t do this, then it’s time for you to reassess your perspective.

Remember that all problems can be overcome when the two of you put fixing your marriage at the top of your priority list.