Well, a lot of guys think they’re learning how to pick up girls because they’re horny or because they want to be cool or impress their friends and/or all of the above. But, but, what is this really all about? Well, most of these guys, you, who read books on flirting, seduction, pick up artist, romance, and dating advice for men, are surprised when you go down the path of learning how to meet the girl of your dreams. And it’s really cool stuff!

At the beginning you learn all the lines of the world. Pick up lines, tricks, games and all sorts of cool and/or tricky things and even pretty manipulative things to do or say that I really don’t like… So you learn how to open up a conversation, you learn what to say, what to do, how to turn the body and all that…

Then over time he learns that there is actually a game and it’s called “THE GAME!” And then you start to see a part of what’s really going on. And you find out that you really don’t like this. And you realize it was never your game or the boys’ game. You begin to realize, learn and see that “The Game” is the women’s game, not the boys’ game. In fact, it is you who has to learn their game…

Then you start to get mad because all this time, you always thought it was the boys playing or spitting on the girls and how society makes single men look bad for doing this. However, you know as well as any girl that if you’re nice and polite and open doors and pay for dinners, you don’t get a girlfriend. Or if you get a girlfriend, she cheats on you with the guy everyone calls the jerk.

Now, it’s the idiots who get all the girls. And that my friends is a fact. And you know… And then you start getting mad at the Jerks, at the girls and at society… I mean, you’re a good guy here. Paying for dinners, even though she makes almost double what you make. And you open doors for her even though she has 10 times more social power than you! And after a while you feel like a fool because she has dinner, she kisses you on the cheek and then she goes out with her friends to meet all the idiots.

And after a few years or more than a few years of this… you realize that you’re the nice guy and it’s her and her and her who do drugs, party, have unprotected sex and sleep around, cheating on you. and much more…

Then you get angry! You’ve had it… and that’s where it all begins! You got balls… yeah, you finally say fuck it! I’m done being the good guy! I’m done paying for dinner… She can pay for dinner, you say… And then when she calls you up and says, “shall we have dinner?” You say, “NO! I’m done paying for dinner, I already ate it!” And then she is stunned…what is happening to her little boy? Is she finally going to put her foot down and tell me where to push it? Is she finally getting some balls?

And then you say, “I’m sick and tired of paying for dinners and paying for flowers just so you can go out with your friends and have fun without me!” And then it happens… She apologizes… and now you’re shocked… I mean, this is the last thing you’d think would happen… And then, she asks if she can buy you dinner. .. She says: “I will pay!” Now you’re thinking, what the hell is going on? Expect? You mean yelling at him and saying “NO!” She’s actually being nice to me…

So you go out and she adores you, kisses you, puts your hands together, intertwines her fingers with yours, in public… and she doesn’t even notice the waiter who is 1.80m tall, in perfect shape, athletic/muscular! She is totally focused on you! She then she pays for the whole dinner and insists… and inside, you’re looking at her, like, am I in the twilight zone? What the hell is happening here? her being so damn nice to me…why is she working so hard to please me?

So she comes home with you and insists on giving you a full body massage… and you’re like, “wait, every time I ask for a massage, she turns me down or gets mad or complains or goes off with her friends.” …” “So what’s going on here?” And then it happens…she gives you a blowjob and everything gets hot and heavy from there…She never gives you a blowjob!! She starts making wild, passionate love to you… She does things she’s never done before… you’re shocked, stunned… And then she snuggles up to you and clings to you and falls asleep in your arms… And you’re like what the hell is going on?

So you wake up and she’s made breakfast, your favorite chocolate pancake with pink stripes… And then you think… hmmm… I think I have to ditch the pink stripes… and then you think, what the hell am I? thinking… where did that thought come from? And then you hear a voice from below say, “Your balls!!!” Then she runs out and cleans the kitchen, starts vacuuming and more… Then you realize, “Hey, wait a minute, this is a fucking dream”; until you get out of bed and stub your toe and scream in pain only to find her running to see if you’re okay…

And then you ask, “Is everything okay?” “Someone died?” And then she laughs and says, “No, silly!” “Why would you say that?” And then you say, “Because you’re actually being nice to me!” “What’s going on?” “Somebody put you up to this?” “Did you lose a bet?” And then she laughs again and says, “What are you talking about?” “I always treat you like this, you’re my honey bear!” And inside you’re saying, “Have you never treated me like this?” So you go back to bed and start daydreaming and reflecting on the amazing night and morning you just spent with your girlfriend who has never been like this with you…

And then it pops into your head and you think, “wait a minute!” “Is he being nice to me because I got mad and yelled at him and said ‘No!’? And then you hear a muffled yell from downstairs and your balls go ‘Yeah you fucking idiot!’ trying to tell you!” “She wants you to be the man and put your damn foot down already!” “Damn fool!” So you sit there and you’re on fire thinking: get hot girls?” “Is this the secret to getting what you want out of a relationship?” “Really?” “Shit!” “I’ve got to try this!”

So you think you’ve been the nice guy all your life… and it never worked out… to the point where you spent every penny, opened all the doors, said “Excuse me, excuse me, etc.” and you never slept or only once in a while and then she’d run off or walk away… So you’re like, ” !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! “I’m done being Mr. Nice Guy!” And you go into a world of saying, “NO!” “NO!” “NO!” And you find your magic power. You stopped letting people He’ll use you or make fun of you! You stopped putting up with rude people. You stopped letting people step on your toes and fuck you up! You’ve had it and you can’t take people’s nonsense anymore!

You start getting up and leaving friends’ dinners, lunches and parties… And suddenly people start to respect you and treat you better! And the girls are all over you and want to be with you and win your heart… Now they treat you better and want you to marry them! Now you’re the guy everyone else envies!

And then one day it hits you! You’ve become the idiot… except, wait a minute! You are not a jerk at all… just have limits and respect for yourself and don’t let women take advantage of you! You make her bear her weight in the relationship now or you leave! And she knows it now and she respects you for it!

wow! What a revelation… who would have thought that having self-respect is what it’s all about!

Yes, my friends, this is all about respecting yourself and having firm boundaries!