Those of us who walk and drive on snow and ice several months out of the year know all about slipping. We learned the winter walk early in life. There’s the shuffle, the flat-footed stomp (never on tiptoe!), and the high-heeled bootie that works well if you’re doing it on a heel.

As for the drive…winter tires, lighter oil, antifreeze and a window defroster make things doable. The rest is up to the driver. It always amazes me how invincible four-wheel drive owners think they are. They fly past me on the four lane highway, kicking up clouds of snow and temporarily blinding me, only to be the first to fall into the ditch in the road! Common sense people, common sense.

But whether you’re walking or driving, there are hidden dangers that even the best of precautions can’t prevent, and they show up when you least expect them.

Like the fact that walking on snow and walking on ice require different talents, but when combined, like the time I thought I was walking on snow, but the snow was just a thin layer covering a layer of ice. Mortal! You know, one of the most helpless feelings in the world is when your feet go flying and you find yourself on your back, gasping for breath, eating snowflakes as they fall into your open, breathless mouth.

Or you hit black ice on the road and suddenly find yourself spinning 360 degrees in the middle of the road, while your eyeballs (which you could hit with a stick) are fixed on the cinder blocks lining the shoulder. whose express purpose is to prevent you from falling off the cliff if you get too close. It sure gets your heart going!

When it comes to our ability to set goals, just like learning the winter walk or ‘skid driving’ talents, there are lessons we can learn to avoid goal slippage.

Five of my favorites are as follows:

1. When you fall, get up

Do what little kids do. Have you ever heard of a baby learning to walk who sat up after a failed attempt to stand up and said, “This walking is too hard, I’ll never learn how, I fail every time I try, I think.” that ‘I’ll crawl everywhere from now on’.

Every person on this earth who was born with the physical ability to walk has walked. Every person on this earth born with the mental capacity to think about what they want can have it. So why do so many of us sit still after a couple of tries?

Perspective.

Instead of seeing a ‘failure’ as a teacher, we see it as something we did ‘wrong’. You can’t be successful without the lessons of some failure. Instead of asking “What is the value of this experience?” we tend to punish ourselves. Failures are good, failures are necessary paths that help us climb our mountains of success. So what doesn’t kill you makes you better. Success is a direction, not an event.

When you fall, get up. Get up and look for the value, the lesson. Apply it during your next try and in no time you’ll be like that baby walking around with a toothless grin of success written all over their face.

2. Do not die with your song without singing

You were born with a song in your heart. He was whispered in your ear at the moment of your birth. You are here to sing it. It is his ‘Ultimate Purpose’.

It’s not something you need to look for. Many people spend their lives ‘seeking’ their Purpose. They are looking “out” instead of in. You don’t have to go looking for it. Let me repeat that, ‘You don’t have to go looking for it’! You already have it. Your soul sings it. You just need to be able to hear it.

Instead of looking for your Purpose, look for the person who can guide you to recognize it. Because that’s what it is… recognition.

When you recognize and sing your song, it is a certainty that your goals are aligned with your Purpose. Without that synchronicity, the road is slippery where you can veer off course and fall into the ditch over and over again. Achieving goals doesn’t have to be so difficult.

When you consciously live your Purpose, you become inspired (in-spirit).

Recognize your Purpose and align your goals with it and goal setting quickly replaces goal sliding.

3. Get off the fast lane

The higher the speed, the longer the slide will be when you slip.

The complaint I hear most often from my clients is that they are overwhelmed and don’t have enough time to do everything they need to do. The time they have is occupied with ‘I must do’ and there is no time left to ‘want to do’.

The first thing to realize about the fast pace and overwhelming rate in your life is that YOU created it and YOU can stop it.

Our globe is not spinning faster, the seasons are not changing faster, and the hands on the clock are not turning even though it may seem so. The rhythm of life is set by humans and you are human.

In the space I have here, I can’t cover the many aspects of time management, but the bottom line is simple, “take back your power.” Set some boundaries with the people in your life. Learn to say no.” Take the time to plan and get better organized, as this will save you hours in the long run. Reward yourself for your accomplishments, big or small. Focus only on the task at hand and don’t let your mind race ahead of you.

Without getting this under control, you can find yourself in an out-of-control slide with no brakes and no idea where you’ll be when you stop.

By stepping on rather than bleed Get out of the fast lane, you’ll be able to enjoy your goal setting process and keep your power where it belongs…with you.

4. Listen to their language

You may be doing all the right things in pursuit of your goals, writing them down, a vision board, etc., but it can all be undone with how you talk to yourself or verbalize to others.

For example, if you set a goal of increased income and poverty of ‘language’, you are not on the same frequency as the Law of Attraction and again, that goal of more income may go off the dial.

Here’s an example:

Instead of: “I need an income of $100,000 per year”

Say this: “I gain an income of $100,000 per year”

Using the word “need” keeps you in a constant state of “need” instead of “earn.”

Instead of: “I am No living in poverty“

Say this: “I am living a life of comfort and luxury”

See how the words “no” and “poverty” emphasize the negative? Once again, the positive energy escapes and leaves you in a state of ‘not having’. Shift your attention to what you want instead of what you don’t want.

Instead of: “I want a new Ford Mustang convertible”

Say this: I love driving my new bright red Ford Mustang.”

The word ‘want’ keeps you in that state of ‘wanting’ instead of having’.

Just judge by how you feel when you say each of the above sentences. Which ones bring up feelings of joy? Do the same with your own sentences.

Keep your ear open for the use of negative words and consciously turn them into positive words. At first it will seem like constant work, but before you know it, you will automatically begin to choose a positive framework for your visions.

Don’t let your targets get away with negative language when it’s such an easy fix.

5. Be a bud cutter

I have always been a Bud-Nipper. I like to nip things in the bud, catch things before they hit rock bottom, get out of control. It’s a hell of a lot less stressful, less time wasted, and healthier to be a Bud-Nipper.

However, there is one thing you must do to qualify as a Bud-Nipper. You You have to come out of denial. you have to see things as they are are, no fancy frills, no dim lighting, no rose-colored glasses.

Just like weeds in the garden, pull a few every few days or ignore them until you have a big job ahead of you that seems like too much work, so you keep procrastinating. This only adds to his ‘overwhelm’ (issue 3).

One of the best examples of cutting sprouts occurs in your own health. One of your goals may be to feel better and have more energy by being healthier. You have a persistent pain in your stomach, but you ignore it and tell yourself it will go away. It continues to get worse over time until it becomes an emergency and you need to see a doctor. Now, instead of controlling his acid reflux with a simple medication or dietary change, he has a complete erosion of his esophagus.

Which would you rather experience? The simple solution to cut shoots or the longest, most complicated, most painful and expensive experience.

The removal of buds is prevention. You have the ability to prevent many of the dramas or traumas that creep into your life. How can you focus on setting goals when you have to deal with so many crises?

So there you have it, five deep steps for you to practice to avoid goal slippage. What if you just focused on a different one every week for the next five weeks? Do you think that would cause some changes for you? These steps are your winter boots, your winter tires, your winter walking, your antifreeze, and all those other slip preventions. You will find that you can stop before you hit the ground or ditch.

So nip that negative language in the bud and get up singing your song when you get off that fast lane!

© Lynn Moore 2007