No one is ready when they hear those dreaded words “we have to talk.” Shortly after, a breakup usually follows. Men tend to handle breakups in a variety of ways. Some men go the extra mile, begging, making promises, and sometimes even going so far as to stalk in an effort to get their ex back. Others accept the breakup as their destiny and hope that the grass will be greener on the other side of the road.
Lastly, there are the guys who are determined to get their ex girlfriend back and are extremely frustrated because they just don’t know what to do.
More importantly, they want their ex girlfriend back and they don’t really feel like they have to go through hoops for this to happen.
Fortunately, jumping through a hoop and losing every ounce of pride you have to get it back isn’t necessary. In fact, you don’t even have to chase her.
In fact, you will probably be surprised to find out how easy it is to get it back.
Follow these steps.
Don’t call her anymore
Trust me, I know everything in your stomach is telling you to get close to her, but don’t. Not calling your ex girlfriend is simple because it requires no effort on your part except not calling her.
Now, it will feel awkward at first, but this step is necessary if you ever want things to go back to the way they used to be. She needs to be able to see the light and realize what life is like without you.
Appearing at his window in the middle of the night and begging him not to leave may work in the movies, but he will surely give you a restraining order in real life. Give him some time to get over his emotions and some time to consider whether he is really better off with someone else.
Don’t worry, I’m not saying never call her again, this step is only temporary.
Make some minor changes
This step is as easy as the first, but it requires you to make a few small appearance changes. I’m not telling you to go and become a new person, that’s too much work. Women have a great ability to notice changes in appearance.
Consider teeth whitening or a regular exercise routine. Buy new clothes or consider cutting back on beer and pizza for a few days. Minor changes don’t require you to do much, just enough for her to notice that something has changed.
Wait for her to understand the word
It won’t be long before word gets out to him about how good you look in your new clothes or how good that new haircut looks on you. She will instantly become curious and find a way to run into you or want to meet. Women have a need to know what is happening.
It will drive her crazy with curiosity that you seem to see yourself and do better without her. He will want to know where the changes are coming from and will wonder if it is because you are with someone else.
Like I said before, she’ll find a way to meet you in public or call you for lunch or catch you up. She will die to know what is happening with you. This is the time when you need to be prepared and know exactly what to say to convince her that she made a mistake by walking away from you.
Knowing exactly what to say is critical because you only have a small window of opportunity to convince her that she made a mistake by leaving you.
That’s where I would advise you to check out my review of two “Get Your Ex Back” (The Magic of Makeup and Text Your Ex) programs online. You can find them on my Marriage, Relationship and Dating Advice Blog called Couples Skills. Feel free to contact me if you have any questions.