This is probably the most discussed topic but the most important topic. I was training this student last night. He told me that he was very afraid to approach women and in his mind he cannot attract beautiful women. I asked her to write a list of the things she is afraid of. When we discussed that list, it was obvious that his fears were nothing more than excuses. In fact, for a long time I also labeled my excuses as fears. But now I know that most of your fears are mere excuses or myths and if you don’t make an effort to face them you will spend most of your life suffering. So once again I am listing some of these excuses here from my book “Social Mastery”. I hope you read them and commit to ditching your excuses, taking action, and reaching out to these beautiful women. Make a promise right now to approach two women today after reading this post.

Here are some excuses or internal conflicts that prevent us from taking the step:

1. I’m not handsome.

Most men are not good looking and most women are more attracted to personality than appearance. In fact, good looks on men come with their own set of challenges. They present themselves as players and women don’t trust them. I can’t tell you how often I have to lower my value when I’m not even good looking. If you display qualities that women are attracted to, nothing else matters. Remember Seal marrying Heidi Klum! Need I say more? So you know that there are other factors besides appearance that can lead you to the Woman. In fact, these other factors are what lead you to the woman MOST of the time.

2. Everyone will laugh at me when they reject me.

Only if you act rejected. No one knows you got rejected unless you leave the set flattened. When a set is over or you get turned down, be a man, smile, shake his hand and say it was nice talking to you anyway, have fun and walk away with a smile on your face. Also, women are usually very polite when they reject you. And if they do, IT’S NOT BIG! Everyone, including me, is rejected.

3. She probably has a boyfriend.

Probably yes, probably no! And it means nothing. She might be dating him to get that role she’s been dying to get or because she hasn’t met anyone like you yet, but she doesn’t want to look like a loser for being single. She could publish an entire book of stories of women leaving their boyfriends and husbands for someone else.

4. That boy is probably her boyfriend.

The only way to find out is to get close to her. If he’s her boyfriend, he won’t kill you. Remember, 8 times out of 10 the guy will be her friend because women don’t go out alone and they feel more secure with a guy to avoid losers approaching them. In fact, approaching a woman who is with boys increases your value. You have to be a brave and confident guy to be able to do that.

Recently, I was with a student. Sorry to open a set on the dance floor. This woman was with three boys. I was at a distance when she opened the set. Five minutes later I saw him surrounded by three guys and I thought he needed help. I walk on set and find out that these three guys are traveling from Europe and that woman was with them. In no time, they had become very friendly with my student and also ended up telling him that she was single and that he should take the plunge. Now I have to admit that if I had realized early on that she was with three guys, I probably wouldn’t have sent this student to open her up, this being her first time in the field, but then I would have done her a huge disservice. . Valuable lesson learned! Go open and don’t worry about dynamics. Let it unfold! You’ll be surprised!

5. She will think badly of me if I get close to her. I will lose courage for approaching her.

On the contrary. She will have more respect for you for approaching her than for not approaching her. After all, they themselves go out to meet men. One time I was recording live in a bar. A group of women approached me. We had a discussion about this and they agreed that they would rather the men approach them than not approach them. In fact, you can imagine how squashed they’ll be if no one comes near them! You are only respecting them by reaching out to them. They know it and they will only confess it to trusting men.

6. He saw me with another girl.

Congratulations! You have a very high value in his eyes! Women love a man that other women love too. That’s why all rock stars have sex all the time. In fact, you will lose value if you don’t flirt with other women. One of my ex-girlfriends confessed that she would always let her boyfriend flirt with other women because it increased her confidence and her jealousy level, which resulted in great sex. There’s no need to apologize for being sexual!

7. I don’t have much to say.

Not after reading my book “Social Mastery” and doing the exercises I ask you to do! You will have enough material to use. And if not, you’ll create it while it’s in action. Start the conversation off with a lot of energy and watch the magic unfold. Your high energy will automatically steer the conversation in the right direction.

8. She is sitting in the corner by the wall.

Good news: seduction will be easy. You don’t have to look for a secluded corner and this will also ensure less distraction. Also, if she’s sitting in a corner, she’s probably shy, so you’ll need to talk more at first. It also means that she hasn’t gotten too close to him that night. It also means that she will thank you for helping her have fun or she would have been bored all night. I cannot insist louder than this: WOMEN ARE DYING FOR YOU TO GET CLOSE TO THEM! THEY WANT THE SAME THING AS YOU! So be a man and seduce her. She will thank you!

9. I’m not in the mood.

Excellent, go and talk to her to get out of the gloomy mood you are stuck in. And for God’s sake, stop making those damn excuses!

10. I will start tomorrow.

There’s no tomorrow! Back when she went to school in New Jersey, she lived in a row house. We were four boys and four girls in the house. I was very attracted to a girl and at first she was also attracted to me. One night there was a party for the elderly. She asked me if she was coming and “wasn’t in the mood”. There was a tomorrow to seduce her. My roommate ended up doing her move on her while he was partying with her. I was mad all night listening to him have sex with her. AND REMEMBER THAT TOMORROW YOU WILL SAY AGAIN “TOMORROW I WILL START!”

I can only give you advice, I can’t force you to go and do what you’re supposed to do. Do you need motivation? The sooner you start your journey, the sooner you will arrive at your destination. Everything else can wait!

RULES:

From now on, whenever you have an excuse why you shouldn’t approach a woman, you should approach her just to prove to yourself that you weren’t making an excuse.

Good luck and be happy!